{"id":482,"date":"2022-09-02T11:20:05","date_gmt":"2022-09-02T11:20:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/peersupport.training\/?post_type=article&p=482"},"modified":"2022-11-14T12:28:53","modified_gmt":"2022-11-14T12:28:53","slug":"personal-story-in-practice","status":"publish","type":"article","link":"https:\/\/peersupport.training\/is\/article\/personal-story-in-practice\/","title":{"rendered":"3. A\u00f0 flytja pers\u00f3nulegu s\u00f6gu s\u00edna"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Inngangur<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Sem f\u00f3lk h\u00f6fum vi\u00f0 \u00f6ll upplifa\u00f0 erfi\u00f0leika \u00ed l\u00edfi okkar - mist\u00f6k, sambandsslit, \u00e1t\u00f6k o.s.frv. \u00dea\u00f0 eru sumir sem hafa gl\u00edmt vi\u00f0 ge\u00f0heilbrig\u00f0isvandam\u00e1l, a\u00f0rir sem hafa tekist \u00e1 vi\u00f0 missi \u00e1stvinar, vandam\u00e1l \u00ed vinnunni e\u00f0a l\u00edkamleg vandam\u00e1l. \u00de\u00f3 s\u00f6gur okkar s\u00e9u allar \u00f3l\u00edkar hafa \u00fe\u00e6r allar e\u00f0lisl\u00e6gt og \u00f3umdeilanlegt gildi; \u00fea\u00f0 er eitthva\u00f0 a\u00f0 l\u00e6ra af hverjum og einum.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

\u00cd \u00feessum kafla munum vi\u00f0 gefa \u00fe\u00e9r verkf\u00e6ri og hugmyndir um hvernig \u00fe\u00fa getur or\u00f0a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00edna eigin s\u00f6gu og hvernig \u00e1 a\u00f0 nota \u00fe\u00e1 s\u00f6gu til a\u00f0 hvetja og sty\u00f0ja a\u00f0ra. \u00deetta getur veri\u00f0 frekar krefjandi, \u00fear sem \u00fea\u00f0 krefst \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa vinnur og deilir hlutum \u00far l\u00edfi \u00fe\u00ednu sem \u00fe\u00fa hefur kannski ekki deilt \u00e1\u00f0ur.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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3.1 Hva\u00f0 er batasaga? <\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Batasaga er saga um pers\u00f3nulega bar\u00e1ttu s\u00f6gumannsins sj\u00e1lfs og sem mikilv\u00e6gara er, hvernig \u00feeim hefur tekist a\u00f0 sigrast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 hindranir e\u00f0a takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 erfi\u00f0leika. Batas\u00f6gur eru miki\u00f0 nota\u00f0ar \u00ed me\u00f0fer\u00f0 og 12 spora samt\u00f6kum til a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa f\u00f3lki a\u00f0 vinna \u00ed gegnum og velta fyrir s\u00e9r atbur\u00f0um \u00ed l\u00edfi s\u00ednu sem hafa valdi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed s\u00e1rsauka og hva\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 hefur l\u00e6rt af \u00fev\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>
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Lengd og innihald batas\u00f6gu fer a\u00f0 miklu leyti eftir tilgangi hennar: ef h\u00fan er t\u00e6ki fyrir manneskjuna sj\u00e1lfa til a\u00f0 rifja upp og sj\u00e1 hversu miki\u00f0 h\u00fan hefur st\u00e6kka\u00f0, getur h\u00fan veri\u00f0 eins l\u00f6ng og \u00edtarleg og vi\u00f0komandi vill, fari\u00f0 \u00ed sm\u00e1atri\u00f0i um \u00e1kve\u00f0nar minningar e\u00f0a a\u00f0eins a\u00f0 gefa \u00fatl\u00ednur af \u00fev\u00ed sem h\u00fan hefur gengi\u00f0 \u00ed gegnum. \u00deegar \u00e6tlunin er a\u00f0 deila batas\u00f6gunni me\u00f0 \u00f6\u00f0rum (svok\u00f6llu\u00f0 opinber batasaga) skiptir uppbygging hennar, svi\u00f0 og or\u00f0alag m\u00e1li: \u00ed \u00feessu tilviki er batas\u00f6gunni \u00e6tla\u00f0 a\u00f0 skilja eftir vonar tilfinningu hj\u00e1 hlustendum, gagnlegar uppl\u00fdsingar e\u00f0a skilabo\u00f0 fyrir \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00edhuga. \u00deessar almennu batas\u00f6gur um a\u00f0 sigrast \u00e1 erfi\u00f0leikum einbl\u00edna meira \u00e1 batahluta batag\u00f6ngu okkar til a\u00f0 hvetja a\u00f0ra til a\u00f0 finna \u00fe\u00e6r uppl\u00fdsingar og hj\u00e1lp sem \u00feeir g\u00e6tu \u00feurft.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

Mikilv\u00e6gasta spurningin \u00ed \u00feessum kafla er eftirfarandi: hver er bo\u00f0skapurinn sem \u00fe\u00fa vilt a\u00f0 a\u00f0rir taki fr\u00e1 s\u00f6gu \u00feinni? <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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3.2 Hvernig veit \u00e9g a\u00f0 \u00e9g s\u00e9 tilb\u00fainn a\u00f0 deila minni batas\u00f6gu? <\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Fr\u00e6\u00f0ilega s\u00e9\u00f0 vir\u00f0ist \u00fea\u00f0 vera au\u00f0velt verkefni a\u00f0 opna Word skjal e\u00f0a finna papp\u00edr og penna til a\u00f0 skrifa um erfi\u00f0leikana sem \u00fe\u00fa hefur gengi\u00f0 \u00ed gegnum, en \u00ed raun og veru er \u00fea\u00f0 oft frekar fl\u00f3ki\u00f0. Pers\u00f3nulegar hugsanir, tilfinningar og gj\u00f6r\u00f0ir eru virkilega erfitt a\u00f0 setja ni\u00f0ur \u00ed or\u00f0, jafnvel enn frekar, \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa ert a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 skrifa um erfi\u00f0ustu augnablikin \u00ed l\u00edfi \u00fe\u00ednu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Spurningarnar sem \u00fe\u00fa g\u00e6tir spurt sj\u00e1lfan \u00feig til a\u00f0 sta\u00f0festa hvort \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt tilb\u00fainn til a\u00f0 skrifa batas\u00f6gu \u00fe\u00edna eru \u00feessar:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

  1. Ertu komin \u00e1 \u00feann sta\u00f0 \u00feannig a\u00f0 \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa hugsar um bar\u00e1ttu \u00fe\u00edna \u00fe\u00e1 vekur \u00fea\u00f0 ekki upp sterkar neikv\u00e6\u00f0ar tilfinningar.\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>
  2. Tr\u00fair \u00fe\u00fa \u00e1 bata \u00feinn?<\/strong><\/li><\/ol>

    Ef \u00fe\u00fa hefur svara\u00f0 \u201enei\u201c vi\u00f0 annarri af \u00feessum spurningum g\u00e6ti \u00fea\u00f0 ekki veri\u00f0 besta \u00e6fingin fyrir \u00feig a\u00f0 skrifa reynslus\u00f6gu \u00fe\u00edna a\u00f0 \u00feessu st\u00f6ddu. H\u00e6ttan vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 safna saman s\u00f6gunni \u00feinni \u00e1\u00f0ur en \u00fe\u00fa hefur n\u00e1\u00f0 \u00feeim sta\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00feessar minningar eru h\u00e6ttar a\u00f0 valda \u00fe\u00e9r s\u00e1rsauka er m\u00f6guleiki \u00e1 a\u00f0 festast \u00ed tilfinningunum sem fylgja upplifunum \u00fe\u00ednum. \u00deegar \u00feessar tilfinningar eru enn \u00f3unnar og ekki n\u00e6gur t\u00edmi li\u00f0inn fr\u00e1 atbur\u00f0um sem \u00fe\u00fa vilt r\u00e6\u00f0a \u00ed s\u00f6gu \u00feinni er au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 festast \u00ed rei\u00f0i, vanl\u00ed\u00f0an og vonleysi sem \u00fe\u00fa g\u00e6tir hafa fundi\u00f0 fyrir og \u00fea\u00f0 getur veri\u00f0 erfitt a\u00f0 sn\u00faa aftur til l\u00ed\u00f0andi stundar. Ef \u00fe\u00fa reynir a\u00f0 skrifa batas\u00f6gu \u00fe\u00edna og finnur sj\u00e1lfa \u00feig a\u00f0 endurupplifa bar\u00e1ttuna sem \u00fe\u00fa hefur gengi\u00f0 \u00ed gegnum, \u00fe\u00e1 er best a\u00f0 leggja hana til hli\u00f0ar \u00ed bili og einbeita \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0 n\u00fainu, \u00e1hugam\u00e1lum, f\u00f3lki og ath\u00f6fnum sem l\u00e1ta \u00fe\u00e9r l\u00ed\u00f0a betur.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

    Mundu a\u00f0 hversu tilb\u00fainn \u00fe\u00fa ert til a\u00f0 deila s\u00f6gu \u00feinni mun breytast og vaxa. Fyrir alla m\u00f6guleika \u00e1 a\u00f0 deila skaltu athuga innra me\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfri \u00fe\u00e9r sem fyrsta skref. Nota\u00f0u tv\u00e6r fyrri spurningarnar og sko\u00f0a\u00f0u l\u00edka almenna l\u00ed\u00f0an \u00fe\u00edna. (\u00de\u00fa getur l\u00edka fundi\u00f0 gagnlegt efni fyrir \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed kafla okkar um sj\u00e1lfumhyggju). Ef \u00fe\u00fa ert yfirbuga\u00f0ur og \u00ed erfi\u00f0leikum getur veri\u00f0 gott a\u00f0 draga \u00feig \u00ed hl\u00e9 - l\u00edka fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 deila s\u00f6gu \u00feinni. A\u00f0 deila reynslu \u00feinni opnar alltaf dyrnar fyrir einhverri berskj\u00f6ldun, til d\u00e6mis - f\u00f3lk sem spyr um erfi\u00f0 efni og a\u00f0 svara \u00feessum spurningum er miklu au\u00f0veldara \u00ed g\u00f3\u00f0u hugar\u00e1standi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    3.3 Hvernig \u00e1 a\u00f0 skrifa pers\u00f3nulega batas\u00f6gu? <\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    Til \u00feess a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0 skipuleggja batas\u00f6gu \u00fe\u00edna h\u00f6fum vi\u00f0 \u00ferj\u00e1r \u00e6fingar sem draga fram \u00fdmsar hli\u00f0ar upplifun \u00feinnar og bj\u00f3\u00f0a upp \u00e1 lei\u00f0ir til a\u00f0 mynda heildst\u00e6\u00f0a og f\u00e1ga\u00f0a s\u00f6gu um bata \u00feinn. Best v\u00e6ri a\u00f0 gera \u00e6fingarnar \u00ed \u00feeirri r\u00f6\u00f0 sem \u00fe\u00e6r eru settar fram og gefa s\u00e9r g\u00f3\u00f0an t\u00edma til a\u00f0 slaka \u00e1 og einbeita s\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00feeim.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    \u00c6fing 1:<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    Kannski er au\u00f0veldasta lei\u00f0in til a\u00f0 segja s\u00f6gu a\u00f0 byrja fr\u00e1 upphafi og fara \u00fea\u00f0an. \u00cd \u00feessari \u00e6fingu hefur\u00f0u t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri til a\u00f0 b\u00faa til \u00fe\u00edna eigin t\u00edmal\u00ednu me\u00f0 b\u00e6\u00f0i j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0um og neikv\u00e6\u00f0um atbur\u00f0um sem hafa haft \u00e1hrif \u00e1 l\u00edf \u00feitt. L\u00ednurit eins og \u00fea\u00f0 sem h\u00e9r er s\u00fdnt er ein au\u00f0veldasta lei\u00f0in til a\u00f0 rifja upp \u00f6ll mismunandi \u00fe\u00e1ttaskil og meta \u00ed hva\u00f0a r\u00f6\u00f0 \u00feau \u00e1ttu s\u00e9r sta\u00f0 og hva\u00f0a \u00e1hrif \u00feau h\u00f6f\u00f0u \u00e1 \u00feig. Eftir a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa hefur teikna\u00f0 upp \u00fe\u00edna eigin batat\u00edmal\u00ednu getur\u00f0u skrifa\u00f0 ni\u00f0ur fyrstu dr\u00f6g a\u00f0 s\u00f6gu, nota\u00f0 t\u00edmam\u00f3tin til a\u00f0 gera gr\u00f3far \u00fatl\u00ednur og fyllt \u00fat.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    It’s usually most convenient to use a pencil and paper for this exercise, but if you wish, you can use our template on Canva (link<\/a>).\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    \u00c6fing 2:<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    Eftir a\u00f0 hafa loki\u00f0 fyrstu \u00e6fingunni er gr\u00f3flega h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 finna t\u00edmabilin \u00e1 \u00e6vinni og me\u00f0 \u00feessari \u00e6fingu erum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 kafa d\u00fdpra \u00ed erfi\u00f0leikana sj\u00e1lfa og fer\u00f0alag okkar e\u00f0a batann. \u00deetta getur veri\u00f0 s\u00e9rstaklega gagnlegt ef \u00fe\u00fa vilt einbeita \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0 au\u00f0sj\u00e1anlegri kr\u00edsu, en jafnvel \u00feeir sem eiga \u00ed fl\u00f3knari bar\u00e1ttu nj\u00f3ta g\u00f3\u00f0s af \u00feessari a\u00f0fer\u00f0 til a\u00f0 greina mismunandi stig kr\u00edsunnar. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    Sem vi\u00f0mi\u00f0unarramma sn\u00faum vi\u00f0 okkur a\u00f0 s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegu l\u00edkani sem Elizabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross hefur \u00fer\u00f3a\u00f0 til a\u00f0 \u00fatsk\u00fdra stig \u00feess a\u00f0 ganga \u00ed gegnum miklar breytingar. Ef \u00fe\u00fa lagar \u00feetta a\u00f0 batas\u00f6gu \u00feinni, \u00fe\u00e1 eru nokkur atri\u00f0i til vi\u00f0b\u00f3tar sem \u00fe\u00fa g\u00e6tir velt fyrir \u00fe\u00e9r: eru a\u00f0rir punktar sem \u00fe\u00fa myndir b\u00e6ta vi\u00f0 kr\u00edsu\u00e1stand \u00feitt? Voru einhver atri\u00f0i \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa upplif\u00f0ir rugling, \u00f3vissu, hj\u00e1lparleysi e\u00f0a dofa? Var bati \u00feinn studdur af vi\u00f0urkenningu, utana\u00f0komandi a\u00f0sto\u00f0, l\u00e6rd\u00f3mi e\u00f0a tilraunum? Er einhver n\u00fd f\u00e6rni, hugmyndir e\u00f0a sj\u00e1lfstraust sem \u00fe\u00fa f\u00e9kkst \u00fat \u00far \u00feessari kr\u00edsu? <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    Here is another, more minimalistic graph that may support you in this exercise: <\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    \u00c6fing 3:<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    \u00deri\u00f0ja \u00e6fingin er innbl\u00e1sin af Marshall Ganz og \u00fer\u00ed\u00fe\u00e6ttri opinberri fr\u00e1sagnarger\u00f0 hans sem kallast Story of Self\u2014Story of Us\u2014Story of Now.<\/span>heimild<\/span><\/a>)<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    \u00deessi \u00fer\u00ed\u00fe\u00e6tta uppbygging getur veri\u00f0 s\u00e9rstaklega gagnleg fyrir \u00fe\u00e6r a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur, \u00fear sem vi\u00f0 erum a\u00f0 deila batas\u00f6gum okkar me\u00f0 brei\u00f0ari h\u00f3pi (frekar en undir fj\u00f6gur augu) - til d\u00e6mis \u00e1 ge\u00f0heilbrig\u00f0is vi\u00f0bur\u00f0i, vinnustofu e\u00f0a \u00e1 me\u00f0an vi\u00f0 deilum okkar s\u00f6gu \u00ed myndbandi e\u00f0a skrifum.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>
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    \u00c1\u00f0ur en \u00fe\u00fa byrjar \u00e1 \u00feessari \u00e6fingu skaltu hugsa um \u00edmynda\u00f0an \u00e1horfendah\u00f3p sem \u00fe\u00fa vilt deila s\u00f6gu \u00feinni me\u00f0. \u00c1horfendur sem \u00fe\u00fa vilt gefa sm\u00e1 von og hvatningu. Eru \u00fea\u00f0 jafningjar - f\u00f3lk sem hefur svipa\u00f0a reynslu og \u00fe\u00fa - e\u00f0a kannski vinir \u00feeirra, foreldrar, og\/ e\u00f0a f\u00e9lagar? Hva\u00f0a aldursh\u00f3p finnst \u00fe\u00e9r \u00fe\u00fa tengja mest vi\u00f0? E\u00f0a viltu kannski beina s\u00f6gu \u00feinni a\u00f0 kennurum, f\u00e9lagsr\u00e1\u00f0gj\u00f6fum e\u00f0a \u00f6\u00f0ru fagf\u00f3lki sem g\u00e6ti haft gagn af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 heyra reynslu \u00fe\u00edna til a\u00f0 vekja meiri vitund \u00ed starfi \u00feeirra? Au\u00f0vita\u00f0 g\u00e6tir \u00fe\u00fa b\u00fai\u00f0 til margar s\u00f6gur \u00fat fr\u00e1 reynslu \u00feinni fyrir marga mismunandi \u00e1horfendur, en veldu einn h\u00f3p fyrir \u00feessa \u00e6fingu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    Fyrsti \u00fe\u00e1tturinn - \u201eSaga af m\u00e9r\u201c getur veri\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9tt \u00fatg\u00e1fa af s\u00f6gunum sem \u00fe\u00fa hefur skrifa\u00f0 ni\u00f0ur \u00ed s\u00ed\u00f0ustu tveimur \u00e6fingum. \u00dea\u00f0 byrjar venjulega \u00e1 einhverri kynningu \u00e1 okkur sj\u00e1lfum og segir s\u00f6guna af \u00fev\u00ed sem \u00e9g hef upplifa\u00f0 og hva\u00f0 \u00e9g hef uppg\u00f6tva\u00f0 \u00ed gegnum \u00fea\u00f0 ferli. \u00dear sem \u00feetta er \u00e6fing til a\u00f0 skrifa opinbera batas\u00f6gu - sem \u00e6tla\u00f0 er a\u00f0 deila - \u00e6tti meirihluti s\u00f6gunnar a\u00f0 einbeita s\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u201elei\u00f0inni upp aftur\u201c \u00e1 fyrri l\u00ednuritum: f\u00f3lkinu, gj\u00f6r\u00f0um, hugsunum og stu\u00f0ningi sem hefur hj\u00e1lpa\u00f0 okkur a\u00f0 jafna okkur. Sem \u00feumalputtaregla - stefndu a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 a\u00f0 minnsta kosti helmingur s\u00f6gunnar sn\u00faist a\u00f0 bata.<\/p>\n\n \n\n

    Fyrir \u00feessa \u00e6fingu skaltu reyna a\u00f0 velja mikilv\u00e6gustu punktana sem \u00fe\u00fa vilt deila \u00far fyrri \u00e6fingum. \u00de\u00fa g\u00e6tir spurt - hvernig veit \u00e9g hva\u00f0 er mikilv\u00e6gt? Fyrir okkur sj\u00e1lf, skiljanlega, eru allir punktar mikilv\u00e6gir, \u00fear sem \u00feeir eru hluti af l\u00edfi okkar og sj\u00e1lfsmynd. En hugsa\u00f0u \u00feetta svona - hva\u00f0 \u00fearf \u00f6rugglega a\u00f0 segja til a\u00f0 sagan s\u00e9 skynsamleg og skiljist? \u00dea\u00f0 eru oft nokkur atri\u00f0i sem h\u00e6gt er a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta \u00f3s\u00f6g\u00f0 e\u00f0a a\u00f0eins minnast stuttlega \u00e1, en samt halda s\u00f6gunni \u201efullkominni\u201c fyrir hlustandann. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    Annar \u00fe\u00e1tturinn - \u201eSagan af okkur\u201c er s\u00e1 hluti s\u00f6gunnar \u00fear sem \u00fe\u00fa tengist einhverju v\u00ed\u00f0ara samf\u00e9lagi. Oftast geta \u00fea\u00f0 veri\u00f0 jafningjar \u00ed svipa\u00f0ri st\u00f6\u00f0u. \u00dea\u00f0 segir fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hvernig saga \u00fe\u00edn - reynsla \u00fe\u00edn, a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur, bar\u00e1tta og gildi - tengist st\u00e6rra vi\u00f0fangsefni \u201eokkur\u201c. Ganz minnir okkur \u00e1 a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 t\u00f6kum \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed m\u00f6rgum \u201cokkur\u201d: fj\u00f6lskyldu, samf\u00e9lagi, tr\u00fa, samt\u00f6kum, starfsgrein, \u00fej\u00f3\u00f0 e\u00f0a hreyfingu - og sagan um okkur tj\u00e1ir gildin, reynsluna, deilt me\u00f0 \u201cokkur\u201d sem vi\u00f0 vonumst til a\u00f0 tengjast \u00e1 \u00feeim t\u00edma.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

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    \u00cd \u00feessum hluta s\u00f6gunnar getur\u00f0u sagt fr\u00e1 hvatningu \u00feinni: hvers vegna \u00fe\u00fa vilt deila reynslu \u00feinni. Oft er \u00fea\u00f0 vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 h\u00f6fum uppg\u00f6tva\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er til f\u00f3lk eins og vi\u00f0; f\u00f3lk sem getur fundi\u00f0 fyrir stu\u00f0ningi vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 heyra a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 ekki eitt. H\u00e9r er t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri \u00feitt til a\u00f0 \u00e1varpa \u00fe\u00e1; a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta \u00fe\u00e1 vita a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa veist a\u00f0 \u00feeir eru ekki einir me\u00f0 upplifanir s\u00ednar. \u00dea\u00f0 getur veri\u00f0 eins einfalt og \u00fea\u00f0 hlj\u00f3mar \u00ed l\u00edkingu vi\u00f0 \u201e\u00c9g veit a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er til f\u00f3lk sem l\u00ed\u00f0ur svipa\u00f0 og m\u00e9r lei\u00f0,\u201c - bara tj\u00e1\u00f0 me\u00f0 einl\u00e6gum or\u00f0um fr\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r sj\u00e1lfum.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    \u201eSaga n\u00fasins\u201c er s\u00e1 hluti \u00fear sem \u00fe\u00fa kemur me\u00f0 sk\u00fdran punkt; \u00e1kall til a\u00f0ger\u00f0a og gefa hlustendum von. H\u00e9r er t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri\u00f0 \u00feitt til a\u00f0 segja hlustendum \u00fe\u00ednum hva\u00f0 \u00feeir geta gert til a\u00f0 taka \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed eigin batavinnu. \u00de\u00fa getur hugsa\u00f0 - hva\u00f0 myndir \u00fe\u00fa vilja segja, s\u00e9rstaklega vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 sem finna fyrir mikilli tengingu vi\u00f0 \u201eokkur\u201c sem l\u00fdst \u00ed s\u00ed\u00f0asta \u00fe\u00e6tti. \u00deetta er t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri til a\u00f0 koma \u00e1 framf\u00e6ri si\u00f0fer\u00f0i s\u00f6gunnar, e\u00f0a meira a\u00f0 segja, lykilatri\u00f0in sem \u00fe\u00fa vilt koma \u00e1 framf\u00e6ri.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    N\u00fa bj\u00f3\u00f0um vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0 gefa \u00fe\u00e9r sm\u00e1 t\u00edma og skrifa ni\u00f0ur \u00fe\u00edna eigin s\u00f6gu \u00ed \u00feessari \u00feriggja hluta uppbyggingu. Ekki hafa \u00e1hyggjur ef \u00fe\u00e9r finnst sagan ekki ver\u00f0a fullkomin - e\u00f0a hvergi n\u00e1l\u00e6gt \u00fev\u00ed! Batasaga \u00fe\u00edn er alltaf a\u00f0 st\u00e6kka og breytast. \u00deeas. \u00fe\u00fa heldur \u00e1fram a\u00f0 st\u00e6kka og breytast, og sagan \u00fe\u00edn l\u00edka. Og \u00ed \u00f6\u00f0ru lagi - sagan \u00fe\u00edn hefur tilhneigingu til a\u00f0 breytast svol\u00edti\u00f0 vi\u00f0 hverja fr\u00e1s\u00f6gn og eftir \u00e1horfendum. <\/span><\/p>\n\n

    Ef \u00fe\u00fa vilt sj\u00e1 d\u00e6mi um batas\u00f6gu sem notar \u00feessa uppbyggingu, endilega sko\u00f0a\u00f0u eftirfarandi sl\u00f3\u00f0:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    3.4 Hva\u00f0 skal taka fram og hva\u00f0 ekki \u00ed batas\u00f6gu? <\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    Til hamingju! \u00de\u00fa hefur n\u00fa skrifa\u00f0 ni\u00f0ur fyrstu dr\u00f6g a\u00f0 \u00feinni eigin batas\u00f6gu. Vel gert! Sennilega hafa einhverjar spurningar skoti\u00f0 upp kollinum vi\u00f0 skriftir; \u201c\u00c6tti \u00e9g a\u00f0 skrifa um eitthva\u00f0 efni e\u00f0a ekki? Er \u00fea\u00f0 vi\u00f0eigandi? Hva\u00f0a or\u00f0 \u00e6tti \u00e9g a\u00f0 nota?\u201d \u00deetta eru allt mj\u00f6g e\u00f0lilegar spurningar \u00ed \u00feessu ferli. \u00dea\u00f0 eru nokkur atri\u00f0i sem \u00fearf a\u00f0 hafa \u00ed huga \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa undirb\u00fdr\u00f0 s\u00f6gu til a\u00f0 deila me\u00f0 \u00e1horfendum. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    Hva\u00f0 \u00e6tti a\u00f0 taka fram \u00ed batas\u00f6gu og hvers vegna?<\/p><\/b>\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    • L\u00fdstu tilfinningum, hugsanamynstri e\u00f0a heimsmynd<\/b> sem \u00fe\u00fa upplif\u00f0ir \u00e1 me\u00f0an \u00fe\u00fa upplif\u00f0ir erfi\u00f0leika. \u00dea\u00f0 er s\u00e9rstaklega gagnlegt fyrir tv\u00e6r mikilv\u00e6gar tegundir hlustenda:\u00a0<\/span>\n
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      • Fyrir jafningja me\u00f0 svipa\u00f0a reynslu gefur \u00feetta oft \u00feau skilabo\u00f0 a\u00f0 hann s\u00e9 ekki einn, hann s\u00e9 ekki s\u00e1 eini sem l\u00ed\u00f0ur svona.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/p>\n \t

      • Fyrir f\u00f3lk sem hefur ekki upplifa\u00f0 eitthva\u00f0 svipa\u00f0 \u00f6\u00f0last \u00fea\u00f0 d\u00fdrm\u00e6ta inns\u00fdn til a\u00f0 skilja \u00feessa bar\u00e1ttu.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/p>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n \t

      • Tala\u00f0u um hvernig \u00fe\u00fa \u00e1kva\u00f0st a\u00f0 breyta a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0um e\u00f0a byrja\u00f0ir a\u00f0 leita \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0sto\u00f0ar.<\/b>\u00deetta veitir hvatningu og getur gefi\u00f0 hagn\u00fdtar hugmyndir um hvernig skal taka fyrstu skrefin \u00ed \u00e1tt til bata.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/p>\n \t

      • Deildu \u00fev\u00ed hver og hva\u00f0 sty\u00f0ur, hvetur og hj\u00e1lpar \u00fe\u00e9r<\/b> \u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200bb\u00e6\u00f0i \u00ed upphafi bata \u00fe\u00ednum og \u00ed dag. \u00deetta getur gefi\u00f0 gagnlegar hugmyndir fyrir f\u00f3lk, sem er \u00ed erfi\u00f0leikum e\u00f0a \u00ed bataferli, einnig g\u00e6ti \u00feetta reynst f\u00f3lki vel sem er a\u00f0 sty\u00f0ja einhvern n\u00e1kominn s\u00e9r \u00ed svipu\u00f0u ferli. <\/span><\/li><\/p>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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        • Stefndu a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 meirihluti s\u00f6gunnar sn\u00fai a\u00f0 bata<\/b>(ekki erfi\u00f0leikunum) <\/span>og alltaf skal g\u00e6ta \u00feess a\u00f0 sagan s\u00e9 \u00e1 j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0u n\u00f3tunum.<\/b>\u00dea\u00f0 er au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 einbeita s\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 l\u00fdsa erfi\u00f0um t\u00edmum, en mundu a\u00f0 batas\u00f6gunni er \u00e6tla\u00f0 a\u00f0 skilja eftir von hj\u00e1 hlustendum. \u00deegar vi\u00f0 bj\u00f3\u00f0um hlustendum okkar \u00ed fer\u00f0alag um erfi\u00f0 efni, \u00feurfum vi\u00f0 l\u00edka a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa \u00feeim a\u00f0 skipta yfir \u00ed bjarts\u00fdnt hugarfar (e\u00f0a a\u00f0 minnsta kosti hlutlaust hugarfar). A\u00f0 enda \u00e1 j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0u n\u00f3tunum hefur me\u00f0 s\u00e9r \u00ed f\u00f6r g\u00f3\u00f0a tilfinningu b\u00e6\u00f0i fyrir s\u00f6gumanninn og almenning.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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          Skrifa\u00f0u tv\u00e6r m\u00f6gulegar lei\u00f0ir til a\u00f0 lj\u00faka batas\u00f6gu \u00feinni \u00e1 j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0an og hvetjandi h\u00e1tt.\n\n\u00dea\u00f0 getur veri\u00f0 samblanda af reynslu sem liti\u00f0 er \u00e1 me\u00f0 j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0u vi\u00f0horfi (t.d. \u201e\u00c9g er mj\u00f6g \u00e1n\u00e6g\u00f0ur me\u00f0 a\u00f0 hafa lifa\u00f0 \u00feetta t\u00edmabil af\u201c, \u201e\u00e9g er svo \u00feakkl\u00e1t fyrir a\u00f0 hafa sagt einhverjum fr\u00e1 vandam\u00e1li m\u00ednu\u201c, \u201e\u00c9g er \u00e1n\u00e6gt me\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00e9g eiga vini sem studdu mig\u201c) og hvers vegna \u00fe\u00fa valdir a\u00f0 deila s\u00f6gu \u00feinni (t.d. \u201emig langa\u00f0i a\u00f0 deila s\u00f6gu minni me\u00f0 ykkur \u00ed \u00feeirri von a\u00f0 \u00e9g geti a\u00f0 minnsta kosti hvatt einhvern til a\u00f0 leita s\u00e9r a\u00f0sto\u00f0ar fyrr en \u00e9g ger\u00f0i\u201c).<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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          Og n\u00fa, hverju \u00e6ttum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 sleppa a\u00f0 taka fram \u00ed batas\u00f6gu okkar - og hvers vegna?<\/p><\/b>\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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          • FOR\u00d0ASTU l\u00fdsingar um sj\u00e1lfsska\u00f0a<\/b> \u00dev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur g\u00e6ti hlustandi \u00feinn fengi\u00f0 \u00edtarlegri hugmyndir um hvernig h\u00e6gt er a\u00f0 ska\u00f0a sj\u00e1lft sig og \u00fear me\u00f0 pr\u00f3fa\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 ef \u00fe\u00fa segir fr\u00e1 hverskonar sj\u00e1lfska\u00f0a \u00fe\u00fa stunda\u00f0ir - jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3 \u00fe\u00fa \u00e6tlir ekki a\u00f0 setja \u00fea\u00f0 fram \u00e1 \u00feann h\u00e1tt.Svo \u00feess vegna skaltu ekki gefa n\u00e1kv\u00e6mar fr\u00e1sagnir um:\u00a0<\/span>
            • Hvernig \u00fe\u00fa ska\u00f0a\u00f0ir sj\u00e1lfan \u00feig,\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
            • Hvernig \u00fe\u00fa f\u00f3rst a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfsv\u00edgs tilraunum,\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
            • Hvers konar \u00e1tr\u00f6skunar heg\u00f0un \u00fe\u00fa hefur tileinka\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r,\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
            • Hvernig \u00fe\u00fa faldir sj\u00e1lfska\u00f0ann fr\u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0ru f\u00f3lki.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>

              Mikilv\u00e6gt er a\u00f0 jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt spur\u00f0ur um \u00feessar uppl\u00fdsingar, \u00e6ttir\u00f0u ekki a\u00f0 deila \u00feeim. \u00de\u00fa getur sagt a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri ekki skynsamlegt a\u00f0 deila \u00feeim uppl\u00fdsingum.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

              • EKKI gefa upp punkta til samanbur\u00f0ar,<\/b>s\u00e9rstaklega var\u00f0andi \u00e1traskanir og f\u00edkniheg\u00f0un. \u00dea\u00f0 gerist au\u00f0veldlega \u00fear sem vi\u00f0 viljum s\u00fdna hversu sl\u00e6mt \u00e1standi\u00f0 var. En \u00fea\u00f0 getur \u00fev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur leitt f\u00f3lk til a\u00f0 bera saman reynslu s\u00edna vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00edna - og l\u00edka a\u00f0 \u00e1kve\u00f0a a\u00f0 a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur \u00feeirra s\u00e9u ekki n\u00f3gu alvarlegar til a\u00f0 leita s\u00e9r a\u00f0sto\u00f0ar. Mikilv\u00e6gt er a\u00f0 for\u00f0ast a\u00f0 nefna:\u00a0<\/span>
                • \u00feyngd<\/span><\/li>
                • hitaeiningar (takm\u00f6rkum \u00feeirra e\u00f0a \u00ed hva\u00f0a magni neytt er)\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
                • magn af mat sem bor\u00f0a\u00f0 er<\/span><\/li>
                • magn af mat sem bor\u00f0a\u00f0 er<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul>
                  • EKKI deila batas\u00f6gu \u00feinni um v\u00edmuefnaf\u00edkn sem hluta af forvarnarstarfi<\/b> (sem \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ir - ekki deila henni me\u00f0 f\u00f3lki sem er ekki a\u00f0 takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 v\u00edmuefnaneyslu e\u00f0a f\u00edkn). \u00deetta getur haft \u00f6fugar aflei\u00f0ingar. Ef batasaga \u00fe\u00edn sn\u00fdst um a\u00f0 sigrast \u00e1 f\u00edkn, \u00fe\u00e1 \u00fearftu a\u00f0 vera mj\u00f6g vark\u00e1r a\u00f0 velja \u00e1horfendur - og velja a\u00f0 deila ekki \u00feeirri s\u00f6gu \u00ed sk\u00f3lum e\u00f0a opinberum st\u00f6\u00f0um.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ul>

                    Ef v\u00edmugjafar gegna hlutverki \u00ed batas\u00f6gu \u00feinni og \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 minnast \u00e1 v\u00edmugjafann, myndi sagan ekki koma heim og saman - nefndu \u00feau stuttlega og hlutlaust (t.d. \u201e\u00c9g drakk miki\u00f0 \u00e1fengi \u00e1 \u00feessu t\u00edmabili og \u00fe\u00e1 versnu\u00f0u vandam\u00e1lin m\u00edn\u201c, \u201e\u00e9g var a\u00f0 misnota\u201c efni og \u00fea\u00f0 kveikti l\u00edklega ge\u00f0rofi\u00f0\u201c). Ef \u00fe\u00fa \u00fearft a\u00f0 nefna v\u00edmugjafana, \u00fe\u00e1:<\/p>

                    • Ekki nota slangur e\u00f0a \u00e1kve\u00f0in lyfjan\u00f6fn. Haltu \u00feig vi\u00f0 flest hlutlaus hugt\u00f6k (td. \"\u00e1fengi\", \"efni\")<\/li>
                    • Ekki fjalla um \u00e1fengi og a\u00f0ra v\u00edmugjafa sem vandam\u00e1lalausn (t.d. \u201em\u00e9r lei\u00f0 mj\u00f6g illa, svo \u00e9g byrja\u00f0i a\u00f0 drekka\u201c)<\/li>
                    • Ekki l\u00fdsa tilfinningunum sem \u00fe\u00fa fannst \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa varst undir \u00e1hrifum (t.d. \u201e\u00c9g haf\u00f0i aldrei fundi\u00f0 fyrir sl\u00edkri vell\u00ed\u00f0an\u201c)<\/li>
                    • Ekki nefna hve miki\u00f0 magn \u00fe\u00fa nota\u00f0ir e\u00f0a hversu oft.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ul>

                      Allir fyrri punktar geta \u00fev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur virka\u00f0 sem hvatning e\u00f0a \u00e1skorun til a\u00f0 pr\u00f3fa \u00fe\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>

                      • EKKI gefa n\u00e1kv\u00e6mar l\u00fdsingar \u00e1 algengum kveikjum (e. triggers)<\/b> hvers kyns ofbeldi e\u00f0a misnotkun, slys, \u00e1f\u00f6ll. Ef \u00fe\u00e6r gegna hlutverki \u00ed s\u00f6gu \u00feinni skaltu hafa \u00ed huga f\u00f3lki\u00f0 sem hlustar \u00e1 \u00feig - l\u00edklega hafa sumir \u00feeirra upplifa\u00f0 eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed l\u00edkingu vi\u00f0 sl\u00edk \u00e1f\u00f6ll sj\u00e1lfir. Til a\u00f0 g\u00e6ta velfer\u00f0ar \u00feeirra, gef\u00f0u vi\u00f0v\u00f6run fyrirfram. \u00cd s\u00f6gunni skaltu nefna efni eins stuttlega og hlutlaust og m\u00f6gulegt er. <\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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                        \u00deegar vi\u00f0 segjum almenningi batas\u00f6gur okkar \u00feurfum vi\u00f0 alltaf a\u00f0 hafa hlustendur okkar \u00ed huga. Til a\u00f0 a\u00f0laga s\u00f6gu \u00fe\u00edna a\u00f0 mismunandi hlustendah\u00f3pum er gagnlegt a\u00f0 einbeita s\u00e9r a\u00f0 tveimur atri\u00f0um:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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                          \u00deegar \u00fe\u00fa undirb\u00fdr\u00f0 \u00feig a\u00f0 deila s\u00f6gu \u00feinni skaltu hafa \u00ed huga hlustendur \u00fe\u00edna. Hva\u00f0 eru \u00feau g\u00f6mul? Hver er reynsla \u00feeirra \u00ed l\u00edfinu? Eru \u00feeir me\u00f0limir einhverjar starfsst\u00e9ttar (t.d. kennarar, f\u00e9lagsr\u00e1\u00f0gjafar, l\u00e6knar)? Hva\u00f0 getur veri\u00f0 s\u00e9rstaklega gagnlegt fyrir \u00fe\u00e1?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

                          Ef \u00fe\u00fa veist ekki um mikilv\u00e6g atri\u00f0i um hlustendur \u00fe\u00edna (\u00feeas. aldur, og hvernig \u00feau tengja vi\u00f0 umr\u00e6\u00f0uefni\u00f0) - reyndu a\u00f0 komast a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed fyrirfram, svo \u00fe\u00fa getir sem best a\u00f0laga\u00f0 s\u00f6gu \u00fe\u00edna a\u00f0 \u00feeim h\u00f3pi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

                          Var\u00f0andi a\u00f0l\u00f6gun \u00e1 or\u00f0afor\u00f0a er lykilspurningin \u201cer \u00feetta skiljanlegt?\u201d \u00dea\u00f0 er yfirleitt ekki vitlaust a\u00f0 nota einf\u00f6ld or\u00f0. \u00deau eru skiljanleg fyrir flesta hlustendah\u00f3pa og \u00feurfa \u00feannig a\u00f0 a\u00f0lagast mj\u00f6g litlu.<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

                          \u201cEinfalt er best\u201d \u00e1 s\u00e9rstaklega vi\u00f0 \u00feegar vi\u00f0 t\u00f6lum vi\u00f0 unglinga, ungmenni e\u00f0a f\u00f3lk me\u00f0 \u00feroskah\u00f6mlun. Ef vi\u00f0 erum sj\u00e1lf mj\u00f6g vel lesin \u00e1 einhverju svi\u00f0i eigum vi\u00f0 tilhneigingu a\u00f0 nota mj\u00f6g fl\u00f3kin e\u00f0a s\u00e9rh\u00e6f\u00f0 or\u00f0, \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 taka eftir \u00fev\u00ed! Reyni\u00f0 a\u00f0 vera me\u00f0vitu\u00f0 um \u00fea\u00f0 og verum vakandi yfir \u00fev\u00ed hvort sagan okkar inniheldur or\u00f0 sem eru ekki almennilega \u00feekkt \u00ed okkar hlustendah\u00f3p. Ef \u00fei\u00f0 \u00feurfi\u00f0 endilega a\u00f0 nota \u00feau, reyni\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fatsk\u00fdra hva\u00f0 er \u00e1tt vi\u00f0 um lei\u00f0 og \u00fei\u00f0 noti\u00f0 \u00feau or\u00f0.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

                          T.d. \u00feegar h\u00e1sk\u00f3lanemi er a\u00f0 segja s\u00f6gu s\u00edna fyrir jafningja \u00ed n\u00e1mi er a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfs\u00f6g\u00f0u h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 tala um BA ritger\u00f0 og f\u00e1 fram frekar n\u00e1kv\u00e6man skilning. En \u00feegar sami nemandi segir fr\u00e1 sama atri\u00f0i \u00ed grunnsk\u00f3la er sennilega mun gagnlegra a\u00f0 tala um st\u00f3ra, mikilv\u00e6ga ritger\u00f0 fyrir h\u00e1sk\u00f3lan, e\u00f0a jafnvel bara heimaverkefni.<\/p>\n\n \n\n

                          Til \u00feess a\u00f0 a\u00f0laga efnin eru lykil spurningarnar eftirfarandi; \u201cer \u00feetta skiljanlegt\u201d og \u201cgetur f\u00f3lk tengt vi\u00f0 \u00feetta?\u201d. Fyrst: Erum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 tala um hluti sem hlustenda h\u00f3purinn hefur getu til a\u00f0 skilja? Og anna\u00f0: Geta \u00feau tengt vi\u00f0 s\u00f6gu m\u00edna a\u00f0 einhverju leyti? Jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt reynslan sj\u00e1lf geti veri\u00f0 mj\u00f6g mismunandi, eru erfi\u00f0leikarnir oft tengdir vandam\u00e1lum e\u00f0a gildum sem eru algeng hj\u00e1 flestu f\u00f3lki - pers\u00f3nuleg tengsl, hvatir, sj\u00e1lfstraust, vi\u00f0urkenning osfr. Reyni\u00f0 a\u00f0 leggja \u00e1herslu \u00e1 \u00feessari punkta!<\/span><\/p>\n\n \n\n

                          \u00cd \u00feessum a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0um er gott a\u00f0 nota \u00edmyndunarafli\u00f0 og reyna a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 heiminn me\u00f0 \u00feeirra augum. Hva\u00f0 v\u00e6ri hj\u00e1lplegt og \u00e1hugavert fyrir \u00feau? \u00deegar tala\u00f0 er til jafningja hafa oft a\u00f0fer\u00f0irnar til a\u00f0 takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 e\u00f0a sigrast \u00e1 erfi\u00f0leikum hj\u00e1lpa\u00f0 mest. \u00deegar tala\u00f0 er til foreldra, kennara e\u00f0a annars f\u00f3lks sn\u00fdst \u00fea\u00f0 oft frekar um hvernig \u00e1 a\u00f0 taka eftir vandam\u00e1lum og hvernig \u00e1 a\u00f0 veita stu\u00f0ning. Yfirleitt gildir: \u00deema\u00f0 sem er mest vi\u00f0eigandi fyrir einhvern er \u00feema\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0komandi getur nota\u00f0 \u00ed s\u00ednu daglega l\u00edfi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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